Significance of a Kiss

You know I’m always up for conversation with my male pals. I look forward to taking mental note and sharing with my girls. Well, this week conversation was about the significance of a kiss to a man. Did you know that most men only kiss women they care about?

According to one of my male friends if a man does not kiss you during intimate moments he is not into you, or he doesn’t want a real relationship with you; just sex. I can’t say I was overly surprised by this statement. I think I was having more of an ah ha moment. I mean intimacy without a kiss is so impersonal so this kind of makes sense. The irony for me is that some men will try to sleep with women unprotected but won’t kiss them? That is the part that makes no sense to me. I had to ask him why are men willing to risk their life but save their emotions?

He didn’t have a quick response. He actually thought about it for a moment before he answered. He finally replied, “Some men don’t think when in the moment. All they think about is how great women feel. They don’t think about the consequences, what they may have to face when the act is over, or safety in some cases. However, they know how to emotionally disconnect. A way to do that is to just participate in the act without intimacy. To some men kissing is a different level of intimacy. When a man kisses you during the act he is opening himself up emotionally. If he doesn’t it is just sex, trust me! Men and women are wired so different. The act with or without a kiss for a woman can be emotional; for men this is not the case. In our minds if we don’t kiss you, hold you, or show affection during the act outside of the act it means absolutely NOTHING! “

Now I was quiet! I had absolutely no words. How can someone have all this in mind but safety goes out the window when they become aroused? Craziness to me! Everything he said is calculated, thought out, and cautious. Yet your life is not a thought? Well, I didn’t want to go on a tangent about the importance of safety to an adult male. I just took in what he said and made mental notes as always; no judgment.

So ladies, tip for this week if you like someone and decide to become intimate with them and they don’t kiss you, consider this brothers thoughts on the significance of kissing. Until next time!